Frequently asked questions
Answers to common questions about tantric massage, workshops and visiting Metta-Ji.
Before you come
Do I need experience of tantra?
No. You're welcome as a complete beginner. I'll explain what you need to know and guide you through the session.What is tantra?
Can I come on my own or with my partner?
Either is welcome. I offer massages, private sessions and workshops for couples of all genders.Explore tantric massage for couples
I'm trans or non-binary. Am I welcome?
Absolutely. You can book any massage or private session. Beforehand, we'll discuss how you'd like to be touched and the language you prefer for your body. Please also let me know your name and pronouns. Trans women are welcome at events for women.
How should I prepare?
There's very little you need to do. Please let me know beforehand about any physical concerns or medication relevant to the session, so I can take them into account.Before your tantric massage
I'm pregnant or have recently had surgery. Can I book?
Please email me first so we can discuss whether a session is appropriate for you at this time.
During the massage
How does a session begin?
With a conversation. We'll discuss what brings you here, anything you're looking forward to or nervous about, and the kinds of touch you do and don't want.
Do I have to be naked?
No. You can be naked or remain partly covered. You can also change your mind during the massage.
Are you naked too?
If you prefer. Some people feel more at ease when we are both naked; others prefer me to remain clothed. For me, nudity in this setting is not sexual.
What if I become aroused?
Arousal can happen during tantric massage. There's no need to feel embarrassed, and you don't have to act on it.
Can I have an orgasm?
Orgasm is not the aim of the massage, and it happens rarely. If it does happen, that's fine. A physical response can occur spontaneously; you don't need to feel ashamed.
Is sexual contact included?
No. Sexual contact is not part of the services I offer.Choosing a tantric massage practitioner you can trust
Does the massage include yoni or lingam touch?
Only if we have agreed this beforehand. Internal touch requires a prior discussion and your consent at the time. You can change your mind whenever you wish.
What if I cry or tremble?
You don't have to hold it back. Emotional and physical responses can arise, and I'll stay present with you.
What if I don't feel very much?
That's fine too. Sensation can't be forced, and you're not doing anything wrong.
Can I stop?
Always. You can stop, pause or ask for a different kind of touch at any time, without giving a reason.
Afterwards
What happens afterwards?
You'll have water and time to rest before leaving. If you'd like to talk about your experience, I'm happy to listen.
Can I go straight back to work?
If possible, leave yourself some quiet time afterwards. You may want space to let the experience settle before returning to a busy day.
Do you offer therapeutic work?
Alongside relaxation and enjoyment, my work can support personal healing. Transformational Tantric Massage focuses more deliberately on what you experience as held tension. My sessions do not replace medical care or psychological treatment.transformational tantra massage
Workshops and groups
Do I need to bring a partner?
You can join A Taste of Touch and Awakening Your Senses on your own or with someone else. At A Taste of Touch, practice partners are not assigned by gender. Couples' workshops are booked together.A Taste of TouchAwakening Your Senses
Will I practise with other participants?
At A Taste of Touch, you'll practise with different people, choosing what feels right in each exercise. At couples' workshops, you work only with your own partner.
Do I have to undress in a group?
A Taste of Touch and Awakening Your Senses are fully clothed. At one point during Yoni & Womb Awakening, participants wear underwear or swimwear with a sarong.
How large are the groups?
Most groups have a maximum of 16 participants. Couples' days have up to eight couples. Awakening Goddess Dance welcomes up to 25 women.
What if I don't want to do an exercise?
You can skip it. Every exercise is optional, and you don't need to explain your decision.
What should I bring?
Check the individual workshop page. Usually, you'll need comfortable clothing and a water bottle.
How do I sign up?
Visit Upcoming events and follow the booking link. Your place is confirmed once payment has been received.agenda
Appointments and practical matters
How do I pay?
For private appointments, payment is made in advance or on the day, as agreed in your confirmation. Workshops are paid for in advance; payment confirms your place.contact pageagenda
Can I cancel or reschedule?
Yes, free of charge until 48 hours before your appointment. For later cancellations or missed appointments, I may charge the full session fee.
How do I book a private appointment?
Send me a message through the contact page. Your appointment is confirmed when you receive my confirmation email. Workshops can be booked through Upcoming events.
Where is Metta-Ji?
In Itteren, part of Maastricht. I'll send you the full address with your booking confirmation. Visits are by appointment only.
Can I stay overnight?
There's an independently run B&B on the same grounds. Please book directly with the owner. Staying overnight can give you more time to rest if you're travelling a long way.
Is there a minimum age?
Yes. All Metta-Ji sessions and events are for adults aged 21 and over.
Can I give someone a gift voucher?
Yes. Email me with the recipient's details and the amount or session you'd like to give, and I'll prepare one for you.
Is what I share confidential?
Yes. What you share with me is treated confidentially. Still have a question? Get in touch.
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